making-friends
Why Making Friends After College Feels Impossible in India
In college, friendship was ambient. You didn't have to try. Two years into your job, you've realized nothing assembles itself anymore.
making-friends
In college, friendship was ambient. You didn't have to try. Two years into your job, you've realized nothing assembles itself anymore.
pune
Friday evening, the office empties out fast. By Saturday morning, half your building has gone home. You're one of the ones who stayed.
hyderabad
You've gotten good at cooking for one. You've optimized loneliness into a system, and there's something quietly sad about how good you've become at it.
relocation
Day one, you were nervous about finding the office. Day ninety, you're professionally settled and completely friendless in the city you now call home.
mumbai
Everyone told you about the commute and the rent. Nobody told you about the specific loneliness of a city moving too fast to ever stop and include you.
indian-parents
Your mother calls three times before noon. Not because anything's wrong, just to check. Each call comes from love, and by the third one you feel a familiar tightness.
mental-health-india
Your uncle mentioned his heart surgery to three relatives with pride. Nobody mentioned your aunt's eight months barely leaving her room. That conversation doesn't happen.
indian-culture
"Kya hua, tu theek hai?" your friend asks. "Haan yaar, I'm fine," you say, already reaching for your phone. You weren't fine. You haven't been in three weeks.
joint-family
The house never gets quiet. Eleven people under one roof, and you go to sleep most nights feeling like nobody in the house actually knows you.
arranged-marriage
Your mother brought it up again at dinner, sandwiched between your project deadline and the neighbor's daughter's engagement. In her timeline, you're already behind.
indian-men
Your father has never once told you he was scared. He handled it. He always handled it. Now you're doing the exact same thing, and you didn't even choose to.
emotional-exhaustion
You cleared your entire Saturday. Slept in, made tea, sat down to rest. Four hours later you're still tired, and you don't know why the rest didn't work.